Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Living Life & Enjoying Everday


Life is a gift, appreciate and enjoy, and live in the now, it is so important. A smile will gain you ten more years of life, and ten more years worth living. Forgive yourself for your faults and your mistakes and move on as making mistakes is about how we learn to do better. Remember, time you enjoyed wasting was not wasted as you are investing time in pleasure that brings you dividends of peace.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Our Global Family


It is important to meet many different kind of people from work and social community who are actually part of different country. The experience of many culture and many languages would certainly be a wonderful experience to all.



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Monday, March 2, 2009

5 Dynamic thoughts to engage your audience


One of the challenges most speakers would face is to engage the audience or get them involved. To have a non responsive crowd would not be a good thing. The speaker with all his enthusiasm and excitement pounces into action to inspire the audience to speak and has a mental timer inbuilt waiting to trigger of the audience to be involved. One of the many outcomes the speaker could face would have not knowing when would be the appropriate or right time.

It just would be too late and awkward to realize from the time the presenter asks for the crowd’s participation and coming to the rude awakening that he is not getting the desired outcome. That would crush him or cause him or her to make further mistakes, creating a not so promising atmosphere and an uneventful presentation.

My brothers and sisters, we can avoid these situations. Let me spark off some ideas that could alter the course of your presentation and making it not only interactive but interesting as well.

Build Bridges

Some preparation that you could do is to make as many friends of the audience as possible. You could do it before your speech or during the speech complimenting your audience, possibly gaining some favouritism or eventually some fans. Just by making friends so that you are not talking to a cold audience.

Observe bodies that speak

Look out for possible gestures and movements of your audience and pay closer attention to those that nod for approval or smile and build on them. They are your anchors that illuminate your environment. They can possibly assist you in the interactive portion of your speak.

Be a Story Teller

Stories are always great, but people would be more engaged if it were your story, personalize it to make it powerful. By doing so, it allows the audience to relate to you and share with them you are actually one of them. The walls of barriers would come down. If possible inject some witty humour or even ask the audience what they think the morale of the story is or it would be even better letting them share a similar short experience or story, encouraging participation. You would be able to set the scene or the mood; this allows you to channel your energy to the audience, making it two ways.

Play the Game

Everyone that I know of loves to be involved in a game. Playing a game allows the creative juices out, makes us relive our childhood and enables us to relax. When you show the audience or make them have a great time, you will be rewarded with the flood gates of an appreciative crowd. Use it as a fantastic leverage.

Gift Giver

Leading you on a truth, just like a kid with a candy, everyone adores the fact of walking away with something. If they realize that they would be gaining something from their painstaking presentation that would charge them up.

See it in your mind's eye of having a dynamic and engaging presentation, gaining participation is a mental obstacle. Use these five ideas to help you in your road to motivating and inspiring your audience. A food for thought from E.W Howe "No man would listen to you talk if he didn't know it was his turn next."

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Energize the magnet that attracts money


“So you think that money is the root of all evil. Have you ever asked what the root of all money is?”Quote from Ayn Rand
"Show me the money!","He is a filthy rich selfish scrooge!", "She is born with a golden spoon, born into riches!", "Money is the root of all evil!”. Stop for a moment and realize what you are saying, money is not bad, money is good, it is my friend, it is just material. Bo Derek had a saying “Whoever said money can't buy happiness simply didn't know where to go shopping.”
What I sincerely am trying to share with you is that, find a meaningful purpose for the use of that money, the choices that you have, how you could bring joy to your loved ones and go into dream mode. Benjamin Franklin had a saying “Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of filling a vacuum, it makes one.” Find the cause, what you hope to achieve, find the vacuum filler.
Napoleon hill the author of "Think and grow Rich" mentioned something very vital."Thoughts become things." What you see in your mind’s eye and consciously believe it, it might eventually become a reality. Imagine yourself already having that money. Do you see yourself in a volt full of money or do you see yourself with your loved ones in a beautiful environment. It is all about the reason behind why we need that money. It gives us the choice of being free. We no longer have to be a prisoner of our work. No longer to we have to fall in the quicksand of debts and the bugging bills that we have to pay. Just like a ship having a rudder, we have to have a purpose. Do not be a victim of circumstances, be a victor.
My question imposed to all of you is that have you energized your magnet allowing enormous, massive amounts of money rushing towards you, flowing into your life?
Believe you deserve to be comfortable, believe it is one of your family members. Believe in the luxury of life you are destined for. Helen Gurley Brown had a saying “Money, if it does not bring you happiness, will at least help you be miserable in comfort.” Unless if you not believe and if you are going to have a self talk saying that you feel miserable, instead of being poor and miserable, be rich and miserable. Best is to be wealthy in heart, with money and happiness.
In a world of scarce resources, we have use the power of our creativity and imagination to come up with endless possibilities. No Limitations, No Boundaries and No Barriers actually hold us back from achieving the things we want to, our destiny of happiness and abundance of wealth.
Remember you make it possible, you make it happen, and you are the fire started in your engine for attracting large and massive amounts of money in your life. Ayn Rand had another saying “Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver.” Don't be a passenger and let things happen, be the pilot and take charge, what is required for attracting money would be your action and a positive attitude that that would align your channel of wealth.
I would like to sign off with some parting thoughts from Mike Phillips who had a saying “Money will come when you are doing the right thing.” So my friends, it all comes from within, do the right thing and you will see the money.

Spark of the Soul - Laughter


A secret that has been burning inside me and I sincerely would love to share it with anyone and everyone I meet. It is something which does not really require much effort and it is not rocket science. Futhermore it does not cost much at all. Then, what is it that I am rambling about. It simply is the willingness to laugh and have a good time. Laughing is the best medicine for the soul.
Mark Twain had a saying "The human race has only one really effective weapon and that is laughter." This saying is so true, it orders to break a tension, and you just have to alter your tonality of speech, bearing in mind not to offend anyone. A person who in fact laughs all the way actually lasts. Have sometime to gather some of your very close friends and have an organized laughter session. The amazing part is that the fake laughter would blend in so well with the real laughter, that it would nourish the soul.
Voltaire had a saying that "God is a comedian, playing to an audience too afraid to laugh." We are too concern of what others would think of us that we keep it to our self and not break the pain that consumes us and eats us alive. Laughter is probably the best release mechanism, just like our mouth is the release valve that extinguishes the hatred and pain and replaces it with a great feeling that makes us want to live each day with joy and passion.
Cat Stevens had a saying "I always knew looking back on my tears would bring me laughter, but I never knew looking back on my laughter would make me cry." It is important to realize that by changing our physiology, our human structure and posture that we can alter our presence of mind a ignite the fire of happiness. We all go through pain in our life. What does not break you makes you. I would like to share with you of a story I once heard about a guy who came across a caterpillar in a cocoon on its journey to transform into a beautiful butterfly. He was standing there admiring nature, looking at the beauty of the transformation process. Something that bugged him deeply was seeing the caterpillar struggle to come out of that cocoon. He felt extremely disturbed and sad. He decided to help the poor insect and end its misery of its struggle by using a stick to enlarge the hole so that the caterpillar could come out. The caterpillar slid out easily from the cocoon. To his horror, he realized his greatest mistake. The caterpillar was all shriveled up not able to move. What a mistake he made and came to the understanding that it was nature he was playing with. The caterpillar had to go through that process of forcing itself out of that tiny hole so as to inject the stream of fluid to its wings for it to fly. My intervening, the caterpillar does not have the strength in its wings to fly. His biggest lessons he learn that also applied to us. What does not break you makes you. All of us have to go through the struggle of life to makes us stronger arming us with the vital experience of handling the journey of life. Any tough situation only calls us to laugh out loud that we are being equipped with more experience to face life. Life is good and Life is great.
I would like to close off by saying this quote from Alan alda "Laugh at yourself, but don't ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don't leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory."My brothers and sisters out there laughter is actually the trigger and the spark of our soul.

Thursday, February 26, 2009

PBM: Motivation Theories : Abraham Maslow


Abraham Maslow had a saying “If you only have a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.” It is similar to the concept of what is called scarcity, if there is abundance of that particular item you do not find the urgency to get it, but when there is scarcity or limited supply of that item, the intensity of wanting it becomes more. It just like water, staying beside a reservoir, that would be no necessity of worrying about water, but if now we are placed in a desert, the craving for water increases. Abraham Harold Maslow (April 1, 1908 – June 8, 1970) was an American psychologist. He is noted for his conceptualization of a "hierarchy of human needs", and is considered the father of humanistic psychology.

Let us take a look at the bottom, the base need, the Physiological needs which are biogical needs and they consist of needs for air, oxygen, food, sleep, sex, shelter, water, and a relatively constant body temperature. Anything the physical organism needs to survive .This is the basic need of the body. It must be satisfied to remain alive, it is very fundamental life or death needs. When these are not satisfied, we feel discomfort and this feeling would motivate us to alleviate it as soon as possible to establish homeostasis. Once it is alleviated, we will think about other things. They are actually the strongest needs because if a person were deprived of all these needs, the physiological ones would come first in the person's search for satisfaction. A person’s needs for food, water and shelter are some of the specific needs within this level."...it seems impossible as well as useless to make any list of fundamental physiological needs, for they can come to almost any number one might wish, depending on the degree of specificity of description.".

When all physiological needs are satisfied and are no longer controlling thoughts and behaviors, the needs for security can become active. This would be the safety needs. Life is an ongoing process of choosing between safety which would be doing things out of fear and having a need for defence and risk in order to for the sake of progress and growth.
Safety needs have to do with establishing stability and consistency in a chaotic world as an individual is concerned about safety and security. Adults have relatively little awareness of their security needs except in times of emergency or periods of disorganization in the social structure as good example would be during a widespread rioting. Children often display the signs of insecurity and the need to be safe. People generally need a social security in a family and it would be a society that protects against hunger and violence. Protection against danger is important. For most people or individuals, long-term job security is important. Another aspect would be unfair and harsh working conditions violate the safety needs of an individual. Safety needs at work could include physical safety; an example would be protective clothing as well as protection against unemployment, loss of income through sickness. "If the physiological needs are relatively well gratified, there then emerges a new set of needs, which we may categorize roughly as the safety needs.” These needs generally are mostly psychological in nature. When we have all physiological needs being satisfied and they are no longer controlling thoughts and behaviors, the seed for the need for security will become active. Take for example if we have a family is dysfunctional such as an abusive husband, the wife cannot move to the next level because she would be constantly consumed and concerned for her safety. Love and belongingness will have to wait until she is no longer cringing in fear. Safety needs sometimes motivate people to be religious. Religions comfort us with the promise of a safe secure place after we die. These are other example of our safety needs such as security and stability. There would also be a sense of dependency, having the need for protection, being free from fear, anxiety, and chaos, the necessity to have structure, order, law, and limits, we would be in search for the strength in the protector who could enforce safety and security.

Next on the list of needs would be love, belonging and the social needs. As when the needs for safety and for physiological well-being are satisfied, the next class of needs for love, affection and belongingness can emerge. Maslow states that people seek to overcome feelings of alienation and loneliness. This would involve both giving and receiving love, affection and the sense of belonging. The need for love, affection, and a sense of belonging are part of social needs. Relationships in the workplace are important to individuals. T-E-A-M – Together everyone achieves more, through group work and being member of teams enable individuals to have their social needs met. Many Organizations encourage group involvement and participation as other means of satisfying the social need. Social needs recognize that most people want to belong to a group. These would include the need for love and belonging and some examples of this would be working with colleagues who support you at work, teamwork, communication, clubs, work groups, religious groups, family, gangs, and so forth. We all need to feel loved by others, to be accepted by family, friends, society and others. We need to be needed and this involves giving and receiving. "If both the physiological and the safety needs are fairly well gratified, there will emerge the love and affection and belongingness needs, and the whole cycle already described will repeat itself with this new center. The love needs involve giving and receiving affection. When they are unsatisfied, a person will feel keenly the absence of friends, mate, or children. Such a person will hunger for relations with people in general ~ for a place in the group or family ~ and will strive with great intensity to achieve this goal. Attaining such a place will matter more than anything else in the world and he or she may even forget that once, when hunger was foremost, love seemed unreal, unnecessary, and unimportant. Now the pangs of loneliness, ostracism, rejection and friendlessness are preeminent."

When the first three classes of needs are satisfied, the needs for esteem can become dominant. Yes my friend the esteem need and these needs for both self-esteem and for the esteem a person get from others. One of the need human beings thrive for is having a need for a stable, firmly based, high level of self-respect, and respect from others. When these needs are satisfied, the person would gain and feel a great sense of self-confidence and valuable as a person in the world. When he comes into a situation when these needs are frustrated, the person feels inferior, weak, helpless and worthless. There would be a need to be a unique individual with self-respect and to enjoy general esteem from others. Some of these needs would include internal and external esteem factors. Internal esteem factors include self-respect, autonomy, recognition and achievement. External esteem factors include recognition and status. It could also be classified to two needs and it involves needs for both self-esteem and for the esteem a person gets from others. First is self-esteem which results from the mastery or competence. Basically to be good in what you do and secondly there is the recognition and attention that comes from others. This is similar to the belongingness level; however, wanting admiration has to do with the need for glory, fame and power. People, who have all of their lower needs satisfied, often drive very luxurious expensive cars because doing so raises their level of esteem. It is about the image that we would like to portray or display. “All people in our society (with a few pathological exceptions) have a need or desire for a stable, firmly based, usually high evaluation of themselves, for self-respect or self-esteem, and for the esteem of others. These needs may therefore be classified into two subsidiary sets. These are, first, the desire for strength, achievement, adequacy, mastery and competence, confidence in the face of the world, and independence and freedom. Second, we have what we may call the desire for reputation or prestige (defining it as respect or esteem from other people), status, fame and glory, dominance, recognition, attention, importance, dignity, or appreciation." "Satisfaction of the self-esteem need leads to feelings of self-confidence, worth, strength, capability, and adequacy, of being useful and necessary in the world. But thwarting of these needs produces feelings of inferiority, of weakness, and of helplessness."
"The most stable and therefore most healthy self-esteem is based on deserved respect from others rather than on external fame or celebrity and unwarranted adulation."
Last but not least, we have the Self-actualization need. As Abraham Maslow had a saying - “A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself.”
Don’t be like the person who has got each foot on a different boat, if the boats go in different direction, you risk of falling into the river. It is very important to eexperience things fully, maximizing each and every experience it a vivid and selfless manner. Dive into the experiencing of something and be totally immersed, let in absorb you totally and concentrate on it fully with all your energy and effort.

Make the growth choice a dozen times a day. When all of the foregoing needs are satisfied, then and only then are the needs for self-actualization activated. Maslow describes self-actualization as a person's need to be and do that which the person was "born to do." "A musician must make music, an artist must paint, and a poet must write." These needs make themselves felt in signs of restlessness. The person feels like he or she is placed on the edge, tense, lacking something, in short, restless. If a person is hungry, unsafe, not loved or accepted, or lacking self-esteem, it is very easy to know what the person is restless about. There would be clear visible indication. It is not always clear what a person wants when there is a need for self-actualization. Individuals want to achieve growth, and achieve one’s potential. Self-actualization is about how people think about themselves - this is often measured by the extent of success and/or challenge at work. Some of the self-actualization indication would be the need for Vitality, creativity, self-sufficiency, Authenticity, playfulness, meaningfulness, Experience purpose, meaning and realizing all inner potentials. It focuses on self-fulfillment of individuals. The need for self-actualization is "the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming." People who have everything can maximize their potential. They can seek knowledge, peace, esthetic experiences, self-fulfillment, and oneness with God, etc. It is usually middle-class to upper-class people or students, who take up environmental causes, join the world peace organizations, go off to a pilgrim or monastery."Even if all these needs are satisfied, we may still often (if not always) expect that a new discontent and restlessness will soon develop, unless the individual is doing what he or she, individually, is fitted for. Musicians must make music, artists must paint, and poets must write if they are to be ultimately at peace with themselves. What humans can be, they must be. They must be true to their own nature. This need we may call self-actualization." Maslow later redefined self-actualization as a function of frequency of peak experiences. Some pointers for self actualization would be to find out who you are, what you are, what you like and don’t like, what is good and what is bad for you, where you are going, what your vision, mission and goals are. Opening yourself up to yourself, trying to understand oneself by this way means identifying defences, finding faults, bad habits and then finding the courage to give them up or eliminating or minimizing them from your system. It is good to self emerge oneself and trying to block or shut out the negative or external factors as to what you should think, feel, say, and so on, and let your experience enable you to say what you truly feel. When in doubt, be truthful and honest to yourself. If you look into yourself with integrity and honesty, you will also take ownership and responsibility. Taking responsibility is self-actualizing. The self talk helps. Listen to your own inner voice. With your unique ability of intelligence, work to do well the things you want to do, no matter how insignificant they seem to be. Every drop amounts to a great ocean and a small leak can sink a great ship.Make peak experiencing more likely and eliminate or get rid of illusions and false notions. Find out your strengths and weaknesses and learn what you are good at and what your potentialities are not.

Monday, December 15, 2008

Believe in your passion and just go ahead and do it, act

Hello Guys! Sometimes seeing is believing, but you got to believe in order to see, and I mean have absolute faith in your passion.

Let me share with you my experience, if you strongly believe in something, go all out and get it. That's what i did. I really wanted to be an actor, I started my TV acting experience as an extra, in a local sitcom called My Sassy Neighbour, I was acting as a home buyer, who is extremely paranoid, who keeps asking lot of questions. I had to go for an audition for a company called Pigs Talk production, where they made me say a few lines over the camera. The lines that I recited, was for another character. I think the personality that caught their attention was the actions of Rowan Atkinson( pardon my spelling Black Adder) " Mr bean" .That gave me the break on the small screen and it was my first experience to see first hand, what happens behind the screens. How they would angle the light, so that the image we see on the screen is bright. How they have to do the sound, with absolute precision, so that there would be ambiance and continuity of sound with no overlapping. How we had to do a few second short, from different angles for couple of minutes, just to make sure that there is a flow in the story.We would be waiting for hours and hours, just for our part, and once we have done that, in the minutes, we have to wait again for the hours. The sacrifice we had to go thru. However, if you strongly believe that you want to make a mark in acting, you have to go through this experience. What does not break you, makes you. No pain, there is no gain.

Another chance, that I would like to share with you guys, is an experience of being a cop or a police officer in the episode called " Missing" stories of real life experiences that took place in Singapore. How ironic, mostly I was missing in that episode, only having a few glimpse of seeing me. I was to investigate a missing cheat, who was a great con-artist. My task was to go through the files and my famous carrying the evidence box, that would so happen to come out in the trailers. Most of my friends who knew me would get excited and share with me they saw me in the trailer. I would share with them, that would be my only part that I would be coming out. What an experience that was. It certainly gave me the exposure that I needed. Now people started to recognize me from that experience.

Soon after I was called to audition for a role as an Army Officer in a local short film call "Spoilt - Mdm White snake". A story about a Boy- Girl relation, and the hero would be having an army experience, and he would be attempting suicide. Guess who is there to stop him and threaten to punish him, you are absolutely right, Me. Stayed tune, I will be right back.